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If I understand it correctly, there's been quite a lot of talk about Zhang Ziyi's relationship with this guy called Vivi Nevo. According to my Google searching he seems to be a Jewish real estate investor, and one of the richest men in New York, but I guess only she knows for sure. I guess it's pretty understandable that the Chinese are interested in ms. Zhang's personal life but it's pretty interesting to read that a lot of Chinese guys are actually really angry at her for dating a western guy! As I'm a western guy who is married to a Chinese girl I'm kind o shocked to know there are people who can't accept it.
I'm wondering why the Chinese guys are so much against it? Is it because they're afraid of the western guys "stealing" their girls? With China's population three times more than US and Europe combined, that's hardly possible... but if the Chinese girls indeed were interested in western guys, perhaps the guys in China should look into mirror to see if there's anything they can do better to keep the girls!
Seriously though, I think it's normal to be interested in a boy or girl from another place. Blonde girls are amazingly popular in south Europe where everyone's pretty dark, and black guys seem to have pretty easy time finding girls here in Finland. Similarly, I'm much more interested in Asian girls than western...
Jani, have you experienced negative reactions personally because you're w/ a Chinese woman?
Since there are so many more men than women in China, I think it's a little understandable. I know a girl in China who says the men there resent foreigners taking Chinese wives because of that shortage. Too bad, because I've got a bit of a crush on a Chinese girl myself.
seaghost; No I haven't experienced anything negative but it might be because I was living in Shenzhen, which is a city of girls so to speak. Because of the way the city was built and the type of industries they have (electronics, etc.) which need more female workers, Shenzhen is actually a home to a lot more women than men and thus there's still plenty to choose from even after I picked mine.
Mostly I've been met with curiosity, not hostility. I think those Chinese who are negative about the foreign guys are a small minority. I can understand their feelings, too. Now that we're in Finland I'm seeing how many Finnish girls are attracted to guys from southern Europe and Africa. You know, you see a black guy walking on the beach and two gorgeous blondes holding his hands, obviously really enjoying themselves. Makes you jealous no matter what! Makes you feel he just came here to have fun with the Finnish girls. It's kind of like someone going out with your sister and you know he's up to no good... If I saw a white Finnish guy with two girls that way, I would have much less of a reaction, perhaps not even notice. At most I would think that guy probably has a lot of money, lucky him.
This is basically similar to what happens in China. There are not many foreign guys in China so the girls are generally speaking crazy about the few available guys. Some of the heat is because of the western guys behavior. There are many who shamelessly take advantage of the situation, dating many girls at the same time and basically causing a lot of bad reputation.
But I think the bottom line is this: there is this magical mutual attraction between Asian girls and white guys, just as there is between white girls and black guys. Where this leaves black girls and Asian guys I don't know. Obviously not everyone feels the way I feel, so I guess in the end there is someone for everyone who just looks hard enough! If you're attracted to a Chinese girl I can only congratulate you for having made a good choice. You shouldn't worry about what other people might think.
seaghost: Actually the world is like this way, most of good stuff is always in few people's hands. Like most of money also belongs to few percent of the people. Those people can have many houses and even leave them empty, but some other people still won't be able to buy an apartment. The rich can possibly give some help to the poor. But it is never possible to be on the same level... they can give up all their extra houses but still those homeless people will not be able to buy them. That's the natural selection, stronger animals will prevail, weaker will disappear...... This rules also helps the world grow better and better...
So... just fallow the rules!!! Try your best and get what you want!!!